Sunday, June 15, 2014

Blah blah blah!

True it is that there is no better way of spending money than that on the people you love and the people who need it. I do not feel as happy when I buy stuff for myself, as I feel when I do it for my kiddo and my mom. Another name in the list that gives me immense pleasure on every penny spent is of Bihari ji. I too like to have good clothes and shoes and handbags, etc etc, like most ladies in this world, but buying a frock, or sari, or a joda for my Radha-Krishan is completely unusual.

I am sure, I am not the only one to think like that, there are other loads of people who think the same way, especially the ones who have come from middle class service families and whose parents have sacrificed a plenty of pleasures while arranging best education and food for us. As my dad says, "there is no end to how good you can wear and how luxurious a life you can live; but a line needs to be drawn and priorities need to be set." I think this line sums up some of the most fundamental principles of personal finance management. Drawing a line and setting priorities,  the fundamentals still remain the same. However, with changing times you cannot also completely ignore all those fancy things. Because, then when you grow up and step out and find that there is so much glossy stuff in life of which you have absolutely no idea, you kinda lose confidence, which comes back only gradually; and sometimes never comes back.

Drawing lines would have been easier for my dad than it would be for me now. I have to expose my kid to all latest gadgets, fancy food items and fashionable clothes, while also making sure her charm for them never goes over board. It is a big challenge, i know and the key does not lie in restrain, it lies in replacement. Replacing the charm of these glitterati with something more substantial, curious, and fulfilling. When I think of what it all could be, traveling comes to my mind the most, followed by reading. I sincerely feel, we can teach so much to our kids if we just show them worlds outside their own house. We must take them to new places and talk with them about it, so that they learn to appreciate the charm of traveling. Second thing is to read to them and show them such myriad personalities of characters that no type of person remain a stranger for them. I feel if they truly learn to observe the variety we have in world, they would most certainly rise above the limitations of pomp and show.

Recently me and my kiddo has started talking about Shopping Malls. This is where she buys her Horlicks from. So, every now and then she will say "hum shopping mall chale", and this is when I terribly miss the presence of any good park in my locality. I so much want to take her to parks where she routinely gets to play with local kids. The max she plays outside is on the lane outside our house, where in all the children of the locality will gather at twilight - but that's not it. It has to be a park, a proper ground, where in I can take her everyday and where she knows the set of people she is going to meet and play and ride with.

But there is little I can do about it. Even the nearest park is many kilometers away and it is not in particular for kids, it is more like grown-ups' jogger park, which somehow does not fit into the need. Wish I had a solution.

I thinking I am talking to myself more than I am actually writing, so I better stop and go to bed.

Till I write again. Cya.